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Tuesday, 9 July 2019

10 ways to challenge shame and become more self accepting


woman hiding her face with both palms
Photo by: Jacqueline Day on Unsplash


Have you ever felt like a worst person in the world for no apparent reason? Have your self-evaluations let you down to the point of breakdown? Don’t worry if this sounds familiar, experiencing shame is common. Shame could be defined as a negative judgement of self – “I am bad” in contrast to guilt which is more oriented towards actions – “I did something bad”. 

Over-active shame feelings can have detrimental effects on acceptance and your overall well-being. Self-judgments could also influence how you express yourself and act in social situations. This means that, shame needs to be challenged and dealt with. 

This post will discuss 10 ways to challenge shame and become more self accepting.

Tuesday, 2 July 2019

June Favourites and Thoughts




Greetings, I hope you have been enjoying the summer sunshine. The seventh month of the year has come. I know it’s a common saying, but I can’t believe that it’s July already. New month means that it’s time for a reflection and favourites.

Tuesday, 25 June 2019

It's time to break down your walls: 8 ways to connect with people and feel comfortable in social situations



Photo by Fordtography

Let’s be real, no one is ever comfortable in social situations (they might be fantastic pretenders), even the greatest extroverts must face their fears. Staying cool, keeping real in social situations requires consistent practice and patience. At times, awkward moments and conversations might push you away from making meaningful connections with other people. Self-consciousness may haunt you in these uncomfortable moments. Nevertheless, how can we be happy in ourselves if we are unable to connect with other people.

This post will discuss ways of connecting with people and “keeping your cool” in social situations. Get ready to face your fears and anxieties. You can do this.


Tuesday, 18 June 2019

The role of Instagram on well-being: Perfection, identity and belonging



Photo by Omkar Patyane on Pexels

When we find ourselves scrolling endlessly through feeds filled with gorgeous individuals and their picture perfect lives, our headspace gets filled with either inspiration or self-deprecation. Instagram has been taken the world by storm. For some, it’s a hobby or a place to express themselves and their identity and for others Instagram is full time job.

There are plenty of posts discussing the impact of Instagram on mental health. Nevertheless, most of these posts focus on the negatives. Nothing in life is black or white. The role of social media is far more complex than simply stating that something is bad for well-being.

In this post I will be discussing the good and the bad of Instagram. Is there a positive effect of Instagram on well-being? Or is it all doom and gloom? Read on the psychology of Instagram effects... let's jam! 


Tuesday, 11 June 2019

Defensive pessimism: Using your anxiety as motivation




Have you ever thought of your anxiety as a source of success and achievement? It’s not surprising if you have not.

After all, mainstream belief suggests that anxious thoughts should be challenged because they are not beneficial to overall mental health. This simplistic belief ignores that anxiety can have some benefits for the individual, especially when it comes to motivation.

This post will discuss the concept of defensive pessimism and harnessing anxiety as a motivating force in your life (Norem & Cantor, 1986)

Monday, 3 June 2019

Disappointing makeup products: The makeup that makes me go ‘meh’




When there are thousands of makeup products to choose from, it is easy to make a mistake. Let’s be honest, there it is thrilling to get a new lipstick or a new foundation. Unfortunately, not all makeup products are incredible – some are disappointing, and some are quite frankly a waste of your money. 

Some makeup products are disappointing for some and not for others, this is an individual opinion. So take this post with a pinch of salt – what I mention here, may not apply to you. Plus, I would like to stress that I am not slating the makeup brands, it’s just for me personally these makeup products were kind of meh.


Wednesday, 29 May 2019

Thoughts on care values: Abuse and neglect in Whorlton Hall



Recently, I have watched the programme about Whorlton Hall (Durham) on BBC Panorama and it made me feel all kinds of emotions. I could not believe the abuse and manipulation that was shown on screen. 

Having worked as a support worker for individuals with Autism and learning difficulties for over two years, I have learned about the importance of care values and abuse prevention. 

Unfortunately, not all care providers follow the principles of safeguarding. In this post, I will discuss my thoughts on care values and reflect on the consequences of abuse and neglect.



Saturday, 25 May 2019

Jeffree Star Velour Liquid Lipstick Review: Is it Worth the Hype?




Everyone is talking about Jeffree Star and his makeup these days. I don't personally care about the drama and chaos, just makeup. 

While the rest of the world is discussing his new powders and concealers, like usual I am late to the party to testing even his most known makeup, namely the liquid lipsticks.

To be honest, I never was inclined to buy a liquid lipstick myself from the brand as I thought that I could get something similar at the drugstore. Nevertheless, my dear friend gifted a lovely velour lipstick for my birthday. I had to take this opportunity and review the lipstick for you guys.

For this review, I will be talking about Jeffree Star liquid lipstick from the Alien collection in the shade “Hi, How are Ya?”

Wednesday, 8 May 2019

How to survive Mother's Day if you had a dysfunctional childhood



Mother’s Day has been long gone in England, however its blissfully artificial fantasy will soon take place in America. I missed out writing about Mother’s Day when it happened in UK, however I think it is still important to address the issues associated with this event. Mother’s Day can cause past trauma, negative memories and suffering from childhood to resurface. Being bombarded with images of happy families in their picture-perfect homes is nothing but torture for the mind. If you have had a dysfunctional childhood in which your parent did not love you or care - you may ask yourself – how do I survive this celebration?  How do I cope with being motherless / parent-less?

Wednesday, 1 May 2019

Life Update: palm trees, birthday reflections and education


All right, I should probably start this post by saying – it’s been a while. It feels like I have totally abandoned this blog. It has not been my intention, life just got a little bit crazy! I don’t know about you but when I was a little girl, time used to pass slowly like a snail. Every single occasion, it felt like I had to wait an eternity for. Nowadays, it’s so fast that I often lose track of it. In addition, fatigue results in me wasting time on pointless activities or not doing anything at all.

I’m a working machine in real life but when I reflect more about my work ethic and habits, perhaps I am addicted to work itself – that’s not healthy. Who knows, maybe I’m not the only one, using my work as a place to get away from negative thoughts inside my head.

Anyway, today I have decided to use my free time wisely and write this post for you guys. The purpose of this post is to give you some updates on my life before I return to my usual posts.


Saturday, 16 March 2019

How to embrace change and find peace in an unpredictable life





Stacked stones on water

The belief that pulls me out from the darkest places is that life is what you make of it. You can
perceive life with fear and become enveloped in avoiding opportunities of change.

On the other hand, you could train your mind into viewing life as your personal obstacle course for inner growth. Obstacles can appear unexpectedly so it’s natural to become afraid of the unknown.

Nevertheless, your fear of unknown should not guide your behaviour. In this post, I will reflect how to embrace change and find peace in an unpredictable life.

Change - an act or process through which something becomes different

Sunday, 10 March 2019

Current Favourites and Thoughts




Makeup items, glasses and a black and white skirt


Hello again, I’m back! Can you believe it’s March already? I haven’t done a favourites post on my blog in a while, so I thought that it’s time to make a current favourites one. 

My head has also been a whole huge mess of thoughts, so I thought I would use my blog as a space of ‘venting’, maybe sharing my thoughts will help you to attune with your own thoughts and feelings. After all, the worst thing to do when you feel a bit ‘off’ is to pretend that everything is okay, am I right?

Sunday, 17 February 2019

You are in control of your life: 7 ways to have strength in the face of adversity


Happy spelled out with colourful pegs


Difficult times come in many different forms, some are experienced on a personal level while other 
difficulties are related to the suffering of those around you. What is difficult to someone may not be difficult for another, so for the sake of this post, I am leaving the subjectivity of the word: “difficulty” up to you. 

When something difficult occurs in life, the automatic response to it is denial and blame – “Why did this happen to me? The world must be cursed”. This is a natural way to response to hardships, however life is not pleasant – so after being blown off your course by several difficulties in a row, it is likely that you will lose all your purpose for living itself.

I think that this is partially one of the main causes of depression (along with the more biological ones). Knowing what to do in the face of constant adversity is a skill that is extremely valuable. It will carry you far into success. 

So, if you are asking now, what do I do? Don’t fear my friend, I’ve got you. Here are some nuggets of wisdom learned experience from my life, and advice from my ingenious fiance Ben.


Saturday, 9 February 2019

Valentines Inspired Makeup Look Tutorial




Makeup products and love hearts on a wooden background


It’s almost Valentines, and for the occasion I wanted to share this makeup look with you. It’s a little 
purple and pink fantasy. Just a little disclaimer – I am by no means a makeup artist. I just find it quite 
fun to do makeup occasionally and not look like a potato. Anyways, I will go through the makeup steps with you guys x

In terms of Valentines Day, remember that you don’t have to have a lover to have fun on the day. Take care of yourself, and don’t succumb to loneliness. If you start feeling horrible, stop checking social media and take yourself out as a treat – you deserve it. Everything on social media is exaggerated, same with Valentines Day. Do whatever you want to do. Celebrate it or have an ordinary day.

Just make sure you get yourself to the supermarket the next day for discounted chocolate (just saying 💗)

Thursday, 31 January 2019

How to Stop Worrying


person sitting on the bed with a cup of coffee looking upset
Photo credit: Unsplash

Worrying is one of the most common issues that people suffer from, it causes nuisance and distress. Anxiety and worrying go hand in hand. Sometimes, worrying can turn into a loop which is difficult to escape. This means that practising methods that help to stop worrying is crucial. These methods I’m about to share with you come from years of studying Psychology and a group CBT that I have attended for 10 weeks. While everyone is different, these methods are aimed at everyone who suffer from worrying / anxiety.


Sunday, 20 January 2019

Pixi Glow Tonic Review: Transform Your Skin

Pixi glow tonic

Pixi Glow Tonic has taken the world by storm. Everyone is raving about it. I waited for a while until I bought a bottle of this (after all it's £18). 

I have used the tonic regularly on my face for about 3 weeks, and I'm ready to give you a honest review! 

Is Pixi Glow Tonic as good as everyone makes it seem? Does it transform your skin? And most importantly - does it make your skin glow like a radiant beam of sunshine? 


Sunday, 13 January 2019

How to plan your grocery shop and save money in 10 easy steps


Woman

Let's face it, weekly grocery shops can seem like a daunting chore (especially when you are on a tight budget).

Learning how to plan your weekly shop will save you money and help to avoid food wastage. UK wastes £13bn worth of food, every year (The Guardian) .

In order to change this, you need to think about your buying habits - why are you buying, what are you buying and how much you are buying. Planning your grocery shops is a great way to do this!

In this blog post, I will discuss the ins and outs of weekly grocery shop planning, in 10 easy steps!

Remember, New Year is all about self-improvement and following useful habits.
If going to a supermarket is stressful for you - make weekly shop planning your habit!


*This post contains affiliate links which means that I will earn a small commission from every purchase at no additional cost to you.  


Saturday, 5 January 2019

How to Trust Yourself and Others



Me next to a red brick wall wearing a rainbow stripped top and faux leather trousers


What is trust? 


Trust relates to placing a level of confidence in someone and this can be feeling inward trust or trusting other people.

According to Erik Erikson, trust is the first stage of psycho-social development occurring in a baby. In early life, trust is the antidote to anxiety – trusting parents and caregivers in terms of their ability to provide support, ensures a healthy future in a child.

In this post, I will dwell deeper into the nature of trust, the benefits of having a healthy level of trust and consequences of mistrust. I will also share some of my experiences and struggles relating to trust and the lessons I have learned.


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