Tuesday, 25 June 2019

It's time to break down your walls: 8 ways to connect with people and feel comfortable in social situations

Laura is standing next to a bush wearing a black top and a black and white pencil skirt
Photo by Fordtography

Let’s be real, no one is ever comfortable in social situations (they might be fantastic pretenders), even the greatest extroverts must face their fears. Staying cool, keeping real in social situations requires consistent practice and patience. At times, awkward moments and conversations might push you away from making meaningful connections with other people. Self-consciousness may haunt you in these uncomfortable moments. Nevertheless, how can we be happy in ourselves if we are unable to connect with other people.

This post will discuss ways of connecting with people and “keeping your cool” in social situations. Get ready to face your fears and anxieties. You can do this.

Tuesday, 18 June 2019

The role of Instagram on well-being: Perfection, identity and belonging


Closeup of a phone with instagram on the screen
Photo by Omkar Patyane on Pexels
When we find ourselves scrolling endlessly through feeds filled with gorgeous individuals and their picture perfect lives, our headspace gets filled with either inspiration or self-deprecation. Instagram has been taken the world by storm. For some, it’s a hobby or a place to express themselves and their identity and for others Instagram is full time job.

There are plenty of posts discussing the impact of Instagram on mental health. Nevertheless, most of these posts focus on the negatives. Nothing in life is black or white. The role of social media is far more complex than simply stating that something is bad for well-being.

In this post I will be discussing the good and the bad of Instagram. Is there a positive effect of Instagram on well-being? Or is it all doom and gloom? Read on the psychology of Instagram effects ... let's jam! 

Tuesday, 11 June 2019

Defensive pessimism: Using your anxiety as motivation


Woman standing in front a sunset with her arms wide open

Have you ever thought of your anxiety as a source of success and achievement? It’s not surprising if you have not.

After all, mainstream belief suggests that anxious thoughts should be challenged because they are not beneficial to overall mental health. This simplistic belief ignores that anxiety can have some benefits for the individual, especially when it comes to motivation.

This post will discuss the concept of defensive pessimism and harnessing anxiety as a motivating force in your life (Norem & Cantor, 1986)

Monday, 3 June 2019

Disappointing makeup products: The makeup that makes me go ‘meh’

Makeup flatlay with Laura's dissapointing products

When there are thousands of makeup products to choose from, it is easy to make a mistake. Let’s be honest, there it is thrilling to get a new lipstick or a new foundation. Unfortunately, not all makeup products are incredible – some are disappointing, and some are quite frankly a waste of your money. 

Some makeup products are disappointing for some and not for others, this is an individual opinion. So take this post with a pinch of salt – what I mention here, may not apply to you. Plus, I would like to stress that I am not slating the makeup brands, it’s just for me personally these makeup products were kind of meh.

Wednesday, 29 May 2019

Thoughts on care values: Abuse and neglect in Whorlton Hall

Sad teddy bear

Recently, I have watched the programme about Whorlton Hall (Durham) on BBC Panorama and it made me feel all kinds of emotions. I could not believe the abuse and manipulation that was shown on screen. 

Having worked as a support worker for individuals with Autism and learning difficulties for over two years, I have learned about the importance of care values and abuse prevention. 

Unfortunately, not all care providers follow the principles of safeguarding. In this post, I will discuss my thoughts on care values and reflect on the consequences of abuse and neglect.

Saturday, 25 May 2019

Jeffree Star Velour Liquid Lipstick Review: Is it Worth the Hype?


Jeffree Star velour liquid lipstick

Everyone is talking about Jeffree Star and his makeup these days. I don't personally care about the drama and chaos, just makeup. 

While the rest of the world is discussing his new powders and concealers, like usual I am late to the party to testing even his most known makeup, namely the liquid lipsticks.

To be honest, I never was inclined to buy a liquid lipstick myself from the brand as I thought that I could get something similar at the drugstore. Nevertheless, my dear friend gifted a lovely velour lipstick for my birthday. I had to take this opportunity and review the lipstick for you guys.

For this review, I will be talking about Jeffree Star liquid lipstick from the Alien collection in the shade “Hi, How are Ya?” 

Wednesday, 8 May 2019

How to survive Mother's Day if you had a dysfunctional childhood



Mother’s Day has been long gone in England, however, its blissfully artificial fantasy will soon take place in America. I missed out writing about Mother’s Day when it happened in UK, however, I think it is still important to address the issues associated with this event. Mother’s Day can cause past trauma, negative memories and suffering from childhood to resurface.

Being bombarded with images of happy families in their picture-perfect homes is nothing but torture for the mind. If you have had a dysfunctional childhood in which your parent did not love you or care - you may ask yourself – how do I survive this celebration?  How do I cope with being motherless / parent-less?

Wednesday, 1 May 2019

Life Update: palm trees, birthday reflections and education


Paphos palm trees

All right, I should probably start this post by saying – it’s been a while. It feels like I have totally abandoned this blog. It has not been my intention, life just got a little bit crazy! I don’t know about you but when I was a little girl, time used to pass slowly like a snail. Every single occasion, it felt like I had to wait an eternity for. Nowadays, it’s so fast that I often lose track of it. In addition, fatigue results in me wasting time on pointless activities or not doing anything at all.

I’m a working machine in real life but when I reflect more about my work ethic and habits, perhaps I am addicted to work itself – that’s not healthy. Who knows, maybe I’m not the only one, using my work as a place to get away from negative thoughts inside my head.

Anyway, today I have decided to use my free time wisely and write this post for you guys. The purpose of this post is to give you some updates on my life before I return to my usual posts.
Saturday, 16 March 2019

How to embrace change and find peace in an unpredictable life

Stacked rocks on top of water

The belief that pulls me out from the darkest places is that life is what you make of it. You can
perceive life with fear and become enveloped in avoiding opportunities of change.

On the other hand, you could train your mind into viewing life as your personal obstacle course for inner growth. Obstacles can appear unexpectedly so it’s natural to become afraid of the unknown.

Nevertheless, your fear of the unknown should not guide your behaviour. In this post, I will reflect on how to embrace change and find peace in an unpredictable life.
Sunday, 10 March 2019

Current Favourites and Thoughts


Laura's current favourites flatlay surrounded by flowers

Hello again, I’m back! Can you believe it’s March already? I haven’t done a favourites post on my blog in a while, so I thought that it’s time to make a current favourites one. 

My head has also been a whole huge mess of thoughts, so I thought I would use my blog as a space of ‘venting’, maybe sharing my thoughts will help you to attune with your own thoughts and feelings. After all, the worst thing to do when you feel a bit ‘off’ is to pretend that everything is okay, am I right?
Sunday, 17 February 2019

You are in control of your life: 7 ways to have strength in the face of adversity


Pegs making up a word happy

Difficult times come in many different forms, some are experienced on a personal level while other 
difficulties are related to the suffering of those around you. What is difficult to someone may not be difficult for another, so for the sake of this post, I am leaving the subjectivity of the word: “difficulty” up to you. 

When something difficult occurs in life, the automatic response to it is denial and blame – “Why did this happen to me? The world must be cursed”. This is a natural way to response to hardships, however life is not pleasant – so after being blown off your course by several difficulties in a row, it is likely that you will lose all your purpose for living itself.

I think that this is partially one of the main causes of depression (along with the more biological ones). Knowing what to do in the face of constant adversity is a skill that is extremely valuable. It will carry you far into success. 

So, if you are asking now, what do I do? Don’t fear my friend, I’ve got you. Here are some nuggets of wisdom learned experience from my life, and advice from my ingenious fiance Ben.
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