Monday, 30 September 2019

Have you ever thought about your reason for being? The significance of reason for leading a happy life

picture of trees and bright blue sky

If you are used to living your life without reason, days can turn into endless monotonous torture. Having a clear raison d'ĂȘtre - reason for being benefits in providing clarity and contributes to the meaning of your existence in the greater scheme of things. 


The reason for being concept extends to other cultures as well, for instance in Japan the term Ikigai also refers to reason for being. It appears that the search for reason is shared across multiple cultures. After all, it is natural for humans to be consumed in existential thoughts.



This post will discuss the importance of having a clear reason for being and how it contributes to your mental well-being. 

Tuesday, 24 September 2019

You are good enough: 6 compassionate ways to manage setbacks in your personal life and career

Laura is staring at some swans

Sometimes you think that you are close to your goal but then it just slips through your fingers. When this happens, you get disappointed and you begin to ask yourself: "where did I go wrong, why are things not going my way?". Unfortunately, when the nature of life is rooted in its unpredictability, so the likelihood of being hit by an unexpected setback is great. We can't avoid these setbacks, no matter how painful they are. 

For instance, I have experienced plenty of job rejections despite my degree. I see these rejections as a setback, as I have been always wired to work hard. I feel guilty and strange when I'm not working. Experiencing these rejections fills me with negativity. It makes me question whether I am good enough. I think that my feelings are shared by many. As a psychology nerd, of course,  I always try to practice what I preach and instead of wasting my time on negative thoughts, I wanted to come up with ways to compassionately deal with these setbacks.

So, it is natural to feel unsettled. When life circumstances push you away from your wishes, whether it's a job or a goal that you worked towards but were unable to attain, your sense of self-worth is likely to crumble. While it's impossible to avoid setbacks, it is healthy to reconsider your attitude towards these setbacks

This post will discuss the idea that despite experiencing setbacks you are still good enough. You will be offered ways to view these challenges in a compassionate and functional way.
Wednesday, 11 September 2019

How to stop feeling like a fraud: 7 easy steps to overcome imposter syndrome


Black and white image of people walking across a pedestrian crossing
Image by Michael Daniels (unsplash) 
To say that imposter syndrome can induce self-doubt would be an understatement. It is clear from the increasing number of posts related to imposter syndrome that many people feel like they're are a 'fraud' and that their achievements are a mere 'fluke'.

These feelings can take away your pride in personal achievements, control, and commitment. The first step that needs to be taken in order to minimize imposter syndrome effects is rooted in understanding the nature of this experience. So, why do we experience these "I am a fraud" feelings and how should you overcome imposter syndrome? 

This post will discuss the nature of imposter syndrome and suggest 7 steps to cope with your feelings and overcome imposter syndrome .

Tuesday, 3 September 2019

8 healthy ways to cope with feeling unsettled


Hand drowning in a water
Photo by Nikko Macaspac on Unsplash
Our minds are strange. One minute, you may be catching up on your favourite shows, sipping on a hot beverage without a care in the world, and then all of a sudden, dread appears out of nowhere, ruining your day and plans. Feeling unsettled is a common occurrence, I experience it quite often.
For a lot of people, unsettlement belongs in the same family of feelings as anxiety. After all, unsettlement can produce unnecessary worries. Experiencing unsettlement can also lead to unwanted physical sensations, for instance, chest pains or sweaty palms.

For me, unsettlement can be benign, it can lurk around in my brain for weeks without my awareness of its existence. I'm not sure whether unsettlement should be classified as anxiety or a symptom of anxiety. You know yourself best, so it's up to you to define your experience of unsettlement.


Instead of being controlled by unsettlement, you can approach this restlessness using a rational rather than a destructive approach. If you are confused or unsure of how to deal with this sudden dread, I got your back! In this post, I will share the best ways of coping with unsettlement.

Saturday, 31 August 2019

August Favourites and Thoughts

Flatlay image with Laura's monthly favourites

Another month is almost over, which means it's time for monthly favourites! Summer in England so far has been like being outside an oven. In this post, I will discuss my favourite products : beauty, lifestyle and all the random bits. I will also reflect on my thoughts and feelings. Let's jam!

Saturday, 24 August 2019

Reflecting on my MSc education experience: Are postgraduate degrees worth it?


Open statistics book with some glasses on top

Choosing whether education beyond an undergraduate degree is for you, could be a choice that you will have to face. Maybe you have already thought about postgraduate studies but were hesitant, maybe you have made a decision or perhaps the thought of studying an MSc course has not even crossed your mind yet. This is where I come in to play (*evil laugh*). I'm here to tell you all about my postgraduate education experience. The ups, the downs, whether it was worth it. 

DISCLAIMER: Some of my points might not apply to all courses or universities. No course is ever run in the same way. A lot of it is down to the organisation of the staff who are in charge. Sometimes organisation can be lame, which can cause a lot of issues. That's why you need to remember to do your research before you commit to anything.
Sunday, 18 August 2019

The impact of others' expectations on identity: Idealism, insecure striving and self-compassion


Women's feet standing in front of a puddle
Photo by Krissana Porto on Unsplash

Sitting down to write a post has been a challenge for me. It's silly because all it takes is typing some words on the screen. I've posted a few posts based on psychological advise and hopefully they have helped or inspired some of you. As a person, I rarely open up about my own problems, as I don't really see much point to it. However, I don't want to feel distanced from what I write or feel like a fraud or some kind of an impostor. In this post, I am embracing my open thoughts about something that has been on my mind for a long time:
Thursday, 8 August 2019

There is a silver lining of sadness: 7 surprising benefits of low mood

Beautiful blue flowers


Sadness is commonly represented with a negative emphasis on its consequences to our well-being. The function of our affective responses is complex, emotions are not good versus bad. There is a silver lining in sadness.  

Some say that it is impossible to comprehend joy without sadness. Others argue that sadness leads to greater appreciation during positive moments. When you learn about the benefits of sadness, it will help you to move through the sadness experience more constructively. 

If you are not in control of your low mood, it is easy to fall back into an apathetic state. In contrast, knowing the benefits that can be cultivated from sadness will help you to feel more empowered. This post will discuss 7 surprising benefits of low mood and teach you that there is a silver lining in sadness. 

Saturday, 27 July 2019

7 useful makeup tips and tricks from Urban Decay makeup artist

Urban Decay makeup counter

Sometimes it takes a professional to teach you something that you don’t know. This is especially true when it comes to makeup techniques. I am by no means an expert with makeup, but I have a passion to learn more when it comes to makeup tips and tricks. 

Recently I have visited Urban Decay counter in my local Fenwick store to have a makeover and improve on my knowledge. It was a fantastic experience!

In this post, I will share 7 useful makeup tips and tricks that I have learned from an incredible makeup artist and alternative model, Sophie. 

Tuesday, 9 July 2019

10 ways to challenge shame and become more self-accepting


Woman covering face with both palms
Photo by: Jacqueline Day on Unsplash
Have you ever felt like the worst person in the world for no apparent reason? Have your self-evaluations let you down to the point of breakdown? Don’t worry if this sounds familiar, experiencing shame is common. Shame could be defined as a negative judgment of self – “I am bad” in contrast to guilt which is more oriented towards actions – “I did something bad”. 

Over-active shame feelings can have detrimental effects on acceptance and your overall well-being. Self-judgments could also influence how you express yourself and act in social situations. This means that shame needs to be challenged and dealt with. 

This post will discuss 10 ways to challenge shame and become more self-accepting.

Tuesday, 2 July 2019

June Favourites and Thoughts

Flatlay with Laura's june favourites

Greetings, I hope you have been enjoying the summer sunshine. The seventh month of the year has come. I know it’s a common saying, but I can’t believe that it’s July already. A new month means that it’s time for reflection and favourites.
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